One Day Later
Posted on | October 16, 2004 | 5 Comments
It really hasn’t changed anything, although my face hurts from grinning for almost 24 hours straight.
So, I think almost everyone has been informed. If I neglected to call you yesterday, I apoligise, but it’s been a crazy weekend so far.
So, why did I decide to ask him? I think I put it best when I told a friend that there comes a point when you have to honor what is important in your life. It is time to honor him and what he means to me. I didn’t want to do it for a long time because that was what was expected of me. As soon as you tell me I have to do something I turn my back and head in the other direction. That’s just my way. It’s not the smartest way to conduct your life, but for some reason I find that if I do things on my own terms, they work out better in the end. I think more than anything, I wanted to be sure. I know me, and I can be quite flighty. But I am satiated by our home, this relationship, and the future we have planned. I am happiest when I am with him. I ache to share everything with him. I love that we have goofy pet names for each other and that he will play board (bored) games with me. He never complained, and even pretended to like my month-long experiment with curry and cream of mushroom soup (the food was awful, but he didn’t say a thing). We share the same interests, especially in all things geeky, but there are enough differences to keep things interersting. It’s simple really. I love the man. That’s all there is to it.
It makes sense to do this before we move, before we start a long journey away from Florida. If we are solid together, then it makes that kind of challenge easier to maneuver through. I don’t really need to be his wife to move across the country with him, but it is so much easier to deal with the paperwork! (that was a joke people).
We have been together for over four years, and we have grown together. It’s not David and Erica – its DavidandErica. And that concept of togetherness doesn’t scare me anymore. I have found that he allows me enough space to be myself, without having to explain or justify. He makes me laugh; pissing in my pants giggles that leave my abs weak. He is my best friend, a great lover, and the only one in the world who really sees all of me. I can’t hide from him. He won’t let me. He also won’t let me get away with much. I have pushed and pulled, testing the limits of his patience and his love. But in the end I don’t want to do that anymore. I love him, more than peanut butter and a bronotsaurus. And I want the world to understand that. It means a lot to me that he know how deeply and completly I love him. I think he knows that now, but I think he also knew it before yesterday. The prospect of a wedding and the terms “wife and husband” don’t change who we are to each other. It’s just icing on the cake, really. Plus, I have wanted to change my last name for years, and Erica McEachern rolls of the tongue. If the words sound right, then it must be fate.
My family was shocked. I informed a few people of my intentions, but I didn’t want the world to know until he said yes. I think Alexis almost went into premature labor, hyperventalating on the phone. I could hear the smile in Mom’s voice and the glee in Papa ‘san’s ribbing (he told me it was very republican of me to marry…the butthead!). And after having spoken with close friends and family I realize many of them saw this coming way before I did. Because I was so staunch in my position I thought I had the world fooled. Come to find out some of them know me better than myself.
For the first time since we have been together – I surprised him. You should have seen the look on his face. This was the last thing he was expecting. I finally got him!
Just so you know, it will not be a formal affair. No churches. No white dress. No tux. I think the white would turn black on me and the rafters of a church would quake if we stepped through the door. It will be small. It will be short (the ceremony itself) and it will be filled with laughter, wine and love. That’s what I have always wanted, to share the joy I have with David with the world.
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October 18th, 2004 @ 5:09 am
Well shit!
All the more excuse for a Bravisimo night.
Knowing you, I don’t think YOU would have had it any other way, honestly.
October 18th, 2004 @ 1:46 am
geeze now i gotta buy a wedding present… lol
October 17th, 2004 @ 9:28 am
I am so very happy for you. I am so very happy for Dave. I am glad he found you. You guys deserve to have all the wonderful things in life.
October 16th, 2004 @ 6:02 pm
yeah. that was my touching, squishy moment for the week. It’s over….now…back to being the bitch!! hehehe
October 16th, 2004 @ 5:56 pm
*sniff* *sniff*
very touching