When the past comes to call
Posted on | March 30, 2008 | 5 Comments
My former stepmother e-mailed me again. This time she found my personal e-mail. I’m livid. While I understand that I’ve made a presence (albeit a small one) on the web, and that all of my moodymeow stuff is public access, I don’t think it was an invitation for her to e-mail me. What creeps me out the most is that she’s probably read about me here, seen the links, read things about my life, things I specifically don’t want to share with her. Lex did her best to shield me from the step-mother’s intrusive questions. After speaking with my mom and my sister, I’ve decided that ignoring her won’t work. My reply was simple: do not contact me again. Let’s see if she listens.
And so this brings up the idea of privacy again. Much of my life is out there for people to peruse. While it never bothered me before, it rankles my nerves now. Do I want my life to be out there for people to examine? Do I have a right to anonymity after having this site up and active for all these years? Is that really possible in this day and age? I won’t take this site down, but I may start limiting access to it. But I may not. Right now I feel like someone is looking in the windows to my home, and it makes my skin crawl.
I’m not ashamed of who I am, nor how I conduct myself. This blog has been interesting for me because when I go back and read about my journey, it makes the present day all the sweeter. But perhaps I should pull back a little.
Then again, maybe not.
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March 31st, 2008 @ 9:07 am
Personally, I don’t think you should have to curb your hobbies (a.k.a. blogging) just because of her. So long as putting your life out there doesn’t bring about any stalkers (in the creepy sense) I think you have every right to keep on keepin’ on.
March 31st, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
I second that.
Is there a way that you can block certain people from accessing your blog? It may be that you need to block her specifically and change your e mail address…. which kinda sucks for the rest of us, but if you are protecting yourself, your family and your friends…then I would consider it.
But chin up… people suck.. and because you already knew that you are at least one step ahead… It will all work out….
April 3rd, 2008 @ 3:45 am
Keep doing what you do she has affected and limited so many things in our lives and it is time for us to stand up and take control and say no more… she does not get to take this away from you. Who cares if she finds out things about you she will only know what the blog or internet allows her to find she won’t get to hear your laugh, or watch the way you eyes twinkle when you laugh a a joke, she will never know how sweet your love feels or how warm your embrace is. She is limited to a computer screen and nothing more she has no power to harm or defeat you because you are an amazing stong and independent woman despite her negative influence on your youth. I love you as do so many of your readers and family and friends and she is not within that circle so don’t worry about it.
April 3rd, 2008 @ 12:21 pm
I just have to say thanks guy… ‘specially you Lex.
April 4th, 2008 @ 10:31 pm
I am referring you to a blog. A blog that does not hold back. A blogger who (and I don’t think you were in this profile class with me but Amanda was) we had to read all semester and then do a journalistic profile. Hers was chosen not for depth of character..cuz…ACK..but depth of honesty.
The point is freedom comes not with privacy, but with apathy towards the thoughts and perceptions of people who don’t matter. Klein gets my sincere respect for putting it all on the line, breathing through the feedback of strangers that occassionally borders on cruel. Moreover – she’s on her second book deal as a result of honesty she pursued despite the consequences.
So E – my loving advice to you – is never allow ANYONE to silence you.
(ok that was a tangent but over beer it would have sounded less preachy XO)